Just found my biggest trigger of all!

[KCaufield77]

I officially quit yesterday. I swear my husband is trying to push my buttons intentionally to see if he can break me! He flat out told me the other day, "I don't have faith that you can really quit." I told him where to put his rude remark. He said he feels that way since I'm kind of being forced to quit. My surgeon won't fix my severely screwed up ankle unless I quit, so my husband thinks that because I didn't necessarily want to quit that I won't. I am willing to quit, though, so I can have surgery and the more time that goes by, the more I'm starting to want to actually quit for myself, my health and the health of my loved ones. Thanks for letting me vent, as I majorly needed to right now!

[McMoney]

I avoided my husband as much as possible for the first week. 😂😂  

Your surgery may be motivating you to quit but surely you can think of MANY reasons to quit.  The more you talk about those reasons the more he’ll believe you want to do this for more than JUST the surgery reason.  

The decision to quit is totally necessary but from what I have learned here on the EX, the desire to quit is not required.  Others have been successful relying only on the commitment to health and the promise to themselves.  You can do this! Prove it to YOU and the husband will amazed as a side effect! 

[ReallyReal]

It is interesting how sometimes the people closest to us say the sorts of things your husband did.  It is just plain weird to me,  but I am glad you can turn his comment around and change it into something that helps motivate you in your quit. After I quit I ran into someone I used to smoke with and when I told her I'd quit she said something like, "I never thought YOU would quit." I was like, Wow, what you must think of me.........

You have very good reasons to quit  and as McMoney said, you can find more reasons---and you absolutely CAN do this.  Read all you can on this site, there is a ton of good information that will help you along, such as things to do when you think you want to smoke, etc.  Post here often, we all want to see you win over your nicotine addiction and we are here to offer support.  Cheers and YAY to you for quitting!!!!

[McMoney]

Years ago I gave up my quit due to an argument with my husband. This time around, I vowed no matter what I’m not going to smoke. Disagreements will happen.  Harsh words may be said.  Smoking does not help anything, it only harms ME.    So NOPE!  

[YoungAtHeart]

Always keep in mind that there is NEVER a good reason to smoke; there are only excuses!   Wasn't nice of him to say that,  but don't let your husband goad you into making one!

You did GOOD not to let him!!! 

Nancy

[CommunityAdmin]

It’s understandable to feel frustrated with your husband’s comments, especially when you’re putting in the hard work to quit @KCaufield77. Keep reminding yourself why you’re doing this. Believe that you can, and you will! The fact that you’re willing to do this for your surgery shows your determination, and whenever you need to vent, know that the community is here for you! You’re not alone in this journey!

Quiana, EX Team

[KCaufield77]

I absolutely just adore you, Quiana! You are such an amazingly encouraging and supportive person, and I want you to know that means a lot to me. I appreciate the ability to vent on this support site. 🙂

[Barbscloud]

@KCaufield77 Congrats on 2 days of success.  We're here to support you and cheer you on.  I wanted to quit for my health--it finally worked for me when I found the Ex and learned how to quit.

Developing Support Systems and Healthy Boundaries ... - EX Community

Reach out anytime.

Barb

[KCaufield77]

Hi Barb,

Thank you so much! On day 3 and feel like killing someone that even looks at me wrong, but I keep telling myself that this too shall pass. Thank you for the article! It was exactly what I needed to read right at this very moment. I liked this part:

"If these comments come from people whose true intention is not to support us, then it may become necessary to assertively set healthy boundaries with these individuals and let them know that you do not welcome their thoughts about your quitting journey."

Thank you for your continued support and encouragement!

Kelly

[Barbscloud]

@KCaufield77 

Barb