How to stay quit

[wildstar266]

I just got out of a surgery and I’m currently urging way too much to smoke, I threw away all old vapes and other stuff I used to smoke , but also knowing my dad has stuff laying around the house makes them even worse, I’ve had multiple conversations about it with him to not smoke around me or leave any of his vapes unattended but he just doesn’t seem to care and he just scolds me for even starting in the first place, I’ve even brought it up to my mom multiple times to talk to him about leaving them unattended but it’s not working, I started using his vapes whenever he’s not at home and I keep on resetting my quit day and it feels like I’m going back into my old habits of using every day, I really want to quit but I keep on allowing myself to use and not follow through with any of my coping mechanisms to not use, I have other support systems but I feel like if I keep on telling them that I keep using it will make them see me in a different way, I’m still in high school so it seems pretty hard to talk to someone about it since my whole support system are teachers who are mandatory reporters and I don’t wanna make it seem like I need to be put in a rehab center just because of my vaping addiction, I also talk to my school cop about it and he’s been super helpful throughout my whole quitting times , I have been pretty open about all of my uses and urges and he’s telling me to not beat myself up and to stop being so negative of myself but I just can’t help it because I keep letting myself go down that path that I so hardly tried to get out off, and I feel like using nicotine products aren’t helping in any way.

[YoungAtHeart]

It is a shame your Dad is not supporting you in your efforts to kick the addiction.  Maybe he feels that it is a judgment about his use--idk!  Doesn't matter, though, this is YOUR decision.  This is YOUR quit!!!!

That being said, it is your decision to take that puff.  You CAN walk away!  You CAN decide you are not going to give in to the temptation.   It's all within your control.  Only you can exert it!!

DO!  Every time you resist makes you stronger for the next temptation.  It WILL get easier as you get some time under your belt!

Nancy

[biscuit9]

@wildstar266   I commend you for understanding how dangerous nicotine is.  Lethally dangerous and I hope you stop it now, before you end up 40 years from now, wanting to quit, because of smoking-related complications.  Choose to do better and be better than the examples you have at home.  As for asking your father to put away the nicotine around you, I can tell you that if I had asked my father to not smoke his cigars around me or leave them around me, it would go over like a lead balloon.....not gonna happen and I didn't waste my breath.  It's their home and they are graciously sharing it with me.  Unlike you, I was the teenager sneaking cigs, and didn't want my parents to know, but they knew I was sneaking.

In spite of all this, I hope you follow through and QUIT this addiction.  Sounds like you do have a support system at school.  This is a good site to come to and learn the best ways to quit vaping.  I urge you to quit now, don't wait.  LEARN how to cope with life, on life's terms, and not use nicotine as a cructch or a security blanket.  I wonder if there are any other vapers, that would be willing to quit with you.  

You sound like a very mature high schooler and have a sound head on their shoulders.  Be a leader and make your own path.  Take care of yourself and your health, so you can have a healthy future.

[CommunityAdmin]

Hi @wildstar266, You're trying so hard, and that matters. Quitting is tough, especially with vapes around and little support at home, but you're winning every time you push back, even for a moment. Slipping up doesn’t mean you’ve failed; you’re still in the fight. Continue to lean on the community for support and focus on one step at a time. You can break this cycle!

Quiana, EX Team

[Barbscloud]

@wildstar266 I know this is hard to swallow, but you can't make someone else support your quit.  It's hard for anyone, but even more difficult for a teenage to do this without the support they feel they need.   You're a special and intelligent  person to be reaching out knowing that you  can't do it alone.  We'll be here for you anytime you need help.  Can't you talk to a school counselor?   I don't think anyone  would consider putting you in rehab for nicotine use.  

You're not letting yourself down.  You've gotten addicted to nicotine like so many other young people without either knowing or caring about the long term negative affects.  The important thing is you're are addressing  this issue at such a young age and understand the negative affects vaping can have on your heath.  And don't forget about your athletic goals.  They're important to you, so don't let anything stand in the way of your dreams.

I'm glad you found the school cop for support. He sounds like a kind and smart person.  I know someone quite well that had a similar role at a high school and he was the best support system for so many kids.  They adored him and knew they could depend on him to get them through their high school years.   It's comforting to know there is always some one there for you.

And don't forget you just went through surgery which is a stressful event for any of us  Let yourself heal physically and emotionally.   You've had a few slips to learn from.  There is nothing wrong with that when you learn something about yourself each time and still don't give up. 

Reach out before you vape, not after.  Taking that one step can keep your quit on track.

Barb